I want to talk about honesty.
So much of this game is about fronting; pretending to be something you’re not. Even if you’re pretending to be your future self, someone you’d like to be, it’s also someone you’re not. . . yet.
I am going to propose that in a world that no longer values authenticity, honesty is a revolutionary act. A different track. Unique. Attractive.
As you become more and more the man you want to be, you will feel more and more comfortable dropping the front and confronting the world with the same courage you use to confront yourself.
Doing this is not easy. It requires that you stand in front of the mirror and accept the man you see there, actual and potential, flaws and strengths alike. It is only when you have achieved this that you can then gaze unflinchingly into the world’s hard eye and demand your piece of it.
This doesn’t mean you should share your innermost thoughts with women. It does mean that you should turn your eye onto areas of your life where you are less-than-honest with yourself, so that when others see them, you will not be surprised, and you cannot be shaken.
This takes inner focus. It takes self-focus, not to bend your energy inward to impale yourself in narcissistic navel-gazing, but the focus to carve out a space for your own innermost person to exist, so that it is free to, little by little, step through the veil of your appearance and manner into real encounters with others.
This is the process I believe all aspiring pick up artists go through. At first, they are focused on their external behaviors, and the new actions they can perform that will produce the desired response in women. Then, they begin to realize that those external behaviors ought to flow from internal beliefs, beliefs which may run contrary to existing beliefs they’ve held all their lives. As their beliefs become more congruent with their behaviors, they can find the peace that so many people search for.
It takes consistency. Inner peace isn’t something you find on a weekend retreat. It isn’t something you find on the weekend, period. It’s something you need to find at your desk at work. At the urinal. In the hallway. Under your car’s floor mats. In the mirror. In the shaving cup. In the drinking cup. In your woman’s eyes and in her arms.
In every waking moment, you need to cultivate yourself with consistency. Burn that ball of your integrity deep into the seat of your soul, the root chakra, a golden ball of immense gravity seated in the throne of your solar plexus. Add a single thread each day, each moment, each time you open your mouth. Wind each golden threads around the tight core and add a little at a time, and over the years you will add a layer, and then another, and they will compress down upon each other to create a denser, stronger, most unshakable center of infinite gravity.
It takes courage. It takes the courage of admitting to yourself when you have defeated yourself, gotten in your own way, foiled yourself. It takes the courage of admitting your shortcomings and weaknesses. It takes great courage to face yourself every day, unflinching, and tell yourself the truth.
It takes even more courage to tell the world the truth about yourself.
But once you have done that, you are free to tell the world the truth about everything else.
Let your game speak.