Comments on: The Importance of Mutual Value Escalation http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/ How to succeed with women, actually, for real...and for free. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:49:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: The 4 Types of Escalation « ALPHA SPERM http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/#comment-626 The 4 Types of Escalation « ALPHA SPERM Fri, 21 Mar 2008 21:38:49 +0000 http://realitymethod.com/?p=145#comment-626 [...] Finally we have mutual value escalation. Mutual-value escalation involves increasing each others value and making each person feel more and more appreciated.  The stronger a connection that you build with someone the more you two will increase each others value.  This helps you two move through the comfort phase of the interaction and increase sexual tension.  MVE is usually a byproduct from vibing and is a direct result of escalating emotionally.  And like emotional escalation it can be done with anyone, including guys. A more detailed explanation of MVE can be found here. [...] […] Finally we have mutual value escalation. Mutual-value escalation involves increasing each others value and making each person feel more and more appreciated.  The stronger a connection that you build with someone the more you two will increase each others value.  This helps you two move through the comfort phase of the interaction and increase sexual tension.  MVE is usually a byproduct from vibing and is a direct result of escalating emotionally.  And like emotional escalation it can be done with anyone, including guys. A more detailed explanation of MVE can be found here. […]

]]> By: Lance http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/#comment-557 Lance Tue, 26 Feb 2008 16:11:33 +0000 http://realitymethod.com/?p=145#comment-557 30, thanks for the clarification. Great answer. Looks like my problem was I just launched into a supposed MVE routine right off my opener, without having previously established myself. So if I'm reading this correctly, it looks like a great way to build rapport and escalate. 30, thanks for the clarification. Great answer. Looks like my problem was I just launched into a supposed MVE routine right off my opener, without having previously established myself. So if I’m reading this correctly, it looks like a great way to build rapport and escalate.

]]> By: thirtyplus http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/#comment-556 thirtyplus Tue, 26 Feb 2008 05:30:17 +0000 http://realitymethod.com/?p=145#comment-556 >>Is it possible to lead the interaction or give the signal so that she >>returns MVE, or does it not work in a pickup? If it didn't work in pickup, I'd be remiss for writing about it on this blog :) Although it's easier to recognize MVE as used in more established relationship, both romantic and professional, it can absolutely be used in a "cold" pickup. The key? She has to really, *really* buy your value. If she isn't attracted to you already, and/or doesn't see you as a really solid, high-value guy who she would be lucky to get with, your recognition of HER value won't "hit" at all. Because of this, you really need to calibrate this tool...and using it prematurely (before she has absolutely cemented you in her mind as a solid, high-value guy) will come across as just another guy trying to compliment her. This is also why, if a girl is really into you and buys your value totally, you can escalate very quickly (quickly enough to fry her circuits) by using too-rapid MVE. She will dig you so hard and be so happy that you dig her that the feedback loop overloads her "suspension of disbelief". >>Is it possible to lead the interaction or give the signal so that she >>returns MVE, or does it not work in a pickup?

If it didn’t work in pickup, I’d be remiss for writing about it on this blog :)

Although it’s easier to recognize MVE as used in more established relationship, both romantic and professional, it can absolutely be used in a “cold” pickup.

The key? She has to really, *really* buy your value.

If she isn’t attracted to you already, and/or doesn’t see you as a really solid, high-value guy who she would be lucky to get with, your recognition of HER value won’t “hit” at all.

Because of this, you really need to calibrate this tool…and using it prematurely (before she has absolutely cemented you in her mind as a solid, high-value guy) will come across as just another guy trying to compliment her.

This is also why, if a girl is really into you and buys your value totally, you can escalate very quickly (quickly enough to fry her circuits) by using too-rapid MVE. She will dig you so hard and be so happy that you dig her that the feedback loop overloads her “suspension of disbelief”.

]]> By: Lance http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/#comment-555 Lance Mon, 25 Feb 2008 14:56:58 +0000 http://realitymethod.com/?p=145#comment-555 30, this is one of the best posts on social dynamics I've ever read. I've got a question. Let's say you open a girl and want to use MVE in the interaction. The girl is relatively cool and intelligent, but she's never done MVE...in other words, you initiate the MVE but she doesn't return the value. Is it possible to lead the interaction or give the signal so that she returns MVE, or does it not work in a pickup? I tried to run MVE over the weekend and the girl just didn't return it, so I was wondering if my opener bonked or she just doesn't understand how to return value. Or, perhaps MVE is really only appropriate in a relationship or business transaction. Feedback would be much appreciated. 30, this is one of the best posts on social dynamics I’ve ever read.

I’ve got a question. Let’s say you open a girl and want to use MVE in the interaction. The girl is relatively cool and intelligent, but she’s never done MVE…in other words, you initiate the MVE but she doesn’t return the value. Is it possible to lead the interaction or give the signal so that she returns MVE, or does it not work in a pickup?

I tried to run MVE over the weekend and the girl just didn’t return it, so I was wondering if my opener bonked or she just doesn’t understand how to return value.

Or, perhaps MVE is really only appropriate in a relationship or business transaction. Feedback would be much appreciated.

]]> By: thirtyplus http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/#comment-518 thirtyplus Wed, 09 Jan 2008 03:33:15 +0000 http://realitymethod.com/?p=145#comment-518 T-ROD, I'm really glad you enjoyed the article, man, but...my name isn't Dimitri. Call me 30. T-ROD,

I’m really glad you enjoyed the article, man, but…my name isn’t Dimitri.

Call me 30.

]]> By: T-Rod http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/#comment-517 T-Rod Tue, 08 Jan 2008 07:56:38 +0000 http://realitymethod.com/?p=145#comment-517 Truly awesome! What a life affirming, generally useful, hell, existential way of looking at the whole dating mating situation. I've finally found a core mindset for my "game" that allows me feel good about approaching women just as I am (though I'm still working on all increasing my value in all areas of my life). Dimitri I can't thank you enough for articulating this concept in a way that makes it "ready for the road" at a moments notice. You've not only helped me but you'll have given a gift to those who I get to help by sharing this way of connecting to other people. TDR Truly awesome!

What a life affirming, generally useful, hell, existential way of looking at the whole dating mating situation. I’ve finally found a core mindset for my “game” that allows me feel good about approaching women just as I am (though I’m still working on all increasing my value in all areas of my life).

Dimitri I can’t thank you enough for articulating this concept in a way that makes it “ready for the road” at a moments notice. You’ve not only helped me but you’ll have given a gift to those who I get to help by sharing this way of connecting to other people.

TDR

]]> By: Dan I http://realitymethod.com/2007/10/the-importance-of-mutual-value-escalation/#comment-513 Dan I Tue, 20 Nov 2007 05:59:39 +0000 http://realitymethod.com/?p=145#comment-513 i had the same trouble as your jerry with putting a word to MVE, it's definately the best way! i had the same trouble as your jerry with putting a word to MVE, it’s definately the best way!

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