The Reality Method 2.0

Seduction in College

I always envy guys in undergrad; they have their entire lives ahead of them, and tons of girls hanging around that are super-easy to seduce — or would be, if these guys had the skills. For a lot of them their idea of a “smooth seduction” is a pony keg and peer pressure. But no matter; they’ll learn.

There are a number of reasons why colleges and universities are such a fertile field for seduction; I’ll outline the biggest ones below.

The odds are in your favor. Generally, it’s pretty easy to find relatively intelligent, attractive young women at college, because they show up their in numbers disproportionate to the U.S. population at large; as of 2005, more women than men attended college (57% of all college students in the U.S. are women, despite the fact that in the population at large, there are 1 million more men in the 18-24 age bracket than women). In fact, that’s probably the reason I’ve gone back to school so many times for more degrees — and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that each time I went back, I had a lot more fun than I had during previous degrees.

Be aware, though, that statistics alone aren’t enough to get you laid; Neil Strauss, seduction expert and author of the industry-outing The Game, tells a story about actually going to an all-girls college and still not getting any action.

You have great opportunities to build status. College is pretty much a fairytale microcosm of the adult world. What I mean by this is that college allows people to be grouped together in loose hierarchies, without the added pressure of “adult” responsibilities like mortgages, kids, careers, and office politics (although some college goers DO have those pressures). There are all sorts of social structures and groups available in college where people can “find a place” — these include the Greek system, teaching assistanceships, all manner of campus jobs, club sports and intramurals, and extracurricular clubs for virtually any sort of interest or activity you can imagine, from the Atheists and Agnostics Club to the proverbial Underwater Basket-Weaving Enthusiasts United.

What this means to you, as a college man, is that it should be fairly easy to get involved in some school-related organization, climb your way to a position of authority, and watch the women roll in. I got a lot of early experience with women as a T.A. during undergrad.

College is a automatic rapport fixer. Seduction in higher education of any sort is generally super easy, since rapport (and comfort) are already present. Women in the U.S. are incredibly accepting of “just meeting” some guy in their class, whereas they’re a little more guarded about the type of guy they’re likely to meet in a club, bar, shopping mall, coffee shop or just randomly on the street. In fact, of these locales, nightclubs and bars are really the most challenging, since many women have the mental block of “I would never date / hook up with a guy in a club” to overcome. Additionally, it’s quite easy to set up low-pressure “study dates” with girls in class, under the auspices of trying to pass a midterm or write a paper.

Female assumptions work to your benefit. Women in college typically assume that men in college are, at the very least,

(1) passable intelligent (unless they’re on athletic scholarship, and if that’s the case, they’re probably at least in good physical shape)
(2) goal-oriented to some degree, since they’re ostensibly working towards a future or career
(3) willing to commit to a long-term project (like a degree)
(4) probably not going anywhere for at least the semester (and therefore less likely to pump and dump them).

Women in college are more adventurous. A lot of them are just getting out from under their parent’s thumb for the first time; many have not had significant sexual relationships in high school, having “saved” themselves for marriage; but, of course, they typically find their morals faltering in the generally open and sexually permissive atmosphere on college campuses. If a woman has not lost her virginity at or before 16.9 years of age (the U.S. average), it is very likely she won’t really sexually blossom until college.

About 14% of college women in their late teens and early 20’s are willing to admit to bisexual experiences, and human sexual behavior researchers have coined the term “LUG” (Lesbian Until Graduation) to describe the prevalence of bisexual and lesbian leanings in undergraduate women. Throw all this together with the force of peer pressure, the lax and liberal attitudes towards sexual experimentation, and rampant alcohol use and abuse, and you get an environment primed for not only seduction and plenty of casual hookups, but some serious fantasy realization.

I don’t want to give the idea that college is all G-strings and drunken threesomes. There are some pretty significant dangers:

STDs are prevalent and students are frequently stupid about protection. According to the Annual Review of Public Health findings from 2006, some 400,000 students reported having unprotected sex after drinking; so both guys and girls are getting trashed enough not to worry about protection, and therefore passing STDs around more freely. Here are some more scary STD stats to make you think twice before barebacking that drunk cheerleader:

– between 28% and 45% of women under 25 are infected with HPV
– two-thirds of all STDS occur in people under 25
– 1 in 5 Americans have genital herpes (HPV), but 90% of these people are unaware of it
– Less than half of adults ages 18 to 44 have been tested for STDs other than HIV/AIDS.

The take-home lesson: Wrap that shit up.

Rape charges. Allegations of sexual assault can fly pretty freely on college campuses (a la the Duke Lacrosse case), and although I’ll be the first to admit that legitimate rape does occur in college, some of the definitions of rape that come out of Women’s Studies programs border on the psychotically irrational; it’s pretty scary to imagine all the women in those programs hungrily sucking up those definitions and unconsciously filing them away against a future bad case of morning-after regret.

Having had my own brushes with rape-charge infamy in college, I will say that the best policy is, when in doubt, take a pass and avoid the trouble.

My Advice to the College Seducer
When I was working as a high school tutor, I gave this speech to my male students (heavily edited so as not to be so explicit and therefore inappropriate), and with the following admonitions:

• Get involved with activities and sports as much as you are able. That makes it much easier to meet people.
• Talk in class, and vary where you sit in lecture halls; it’s incredibly tempting to get into a habit of sitting in the same spot, but move around to meet new people.
• Use protection whenever you have sex, with all your partners
• Get tested regularly (every 3 - 6 months, if you’re sexually active at all). Most colleges have a student health service that will do it for free. Condoms should also be free.
• Make use of all the free stuff: free gym, free track, free pool; free tutoring (some of the female tutors are hot); free counseling; free study groups; free coffee and food; free strippers (at keggers).
• Do party as much as possible, but not so much that it affects your grades — that is, if you care about maintaining a certain grade point average or going on to selective grad programs.
• Drink in moderation while partying; all the other guys will be piss-drunk and incoherent while you are mildly buzzed and relaxed, giving you a natural advantage.
• Do fuck your female T.A.’s or instructors if you get a chance; they technically have more to lose than you do, and you might just get an A out of it; but be very careful about the situation if they are much older or exhibit any sort of “Fatal Attraction” type behaviors.

And that’s all I got. Now get back to your homework.