The Reality Method 2.0

The Power of Sex

Let me start by saying what I’m *not* going to talk about: I’m not going to talk here about the power of the sexual urge (that genetic imperative that selfishly uses us as vessels for autocratic genes).

Nor am I going to talk about sex as a sales tool (although it is a wonderful one) or a weapon (see Lysistrata). All those powers of sex, though very real, are relatively uncontroversial and well-documented elsewhere.

No, what I want to talk about here is quite different, though no less powerful. I want to talk about the persuasive power of sex in relationships.

What’s Possible
Sex is the ultimate persuasive tool.

Properly harnessed, the persuasive power of sex can be used to convince a woman to:

• Have a threesome (when she was otherwise dead-set against it)
• Have anal sex
• Perform sexually on camera
• Fantasize about having sex with a woman
• Imagine she was a virgin again
• Act as though she were a prostitute

…among other things. Name an activity or behavior you’d like to see from your partner that she is currently resistant to, and odds are you can probably achieve it using sexual persuasion — if you apply the principles properly.

What’s Required
Now that you know what’s possible, let me tell you what’s required.

There are basically two essential skills you must have to be able to perform sexual persuasion with any effectiveness:

1. Sexual skill
2. Skill with words

In other words, you have to be able to both Walk the Walk and Talk the Talk.

Sexual skill is pretty self-explanatory; you need to be able to handle your business in bed. The first level of this is being able to reliably give your partner orgasms; from there it’s a question of how many orgasms, how long they are, how far apart, can you do the 1-hour come, can you trigger orgasms verbally, in how many different ways or positions can you trigger orgasms, etc etc. This is all material that can be covered in a more in-depth article later, but it’s enough to say you should have at LEAST the skill required to reliably get your partner off *whenever* you want to (timing her orgasm is an important part of using persuasive sex).

Talking skill is just as important, but less well-known. Some people might call this the art of “smooth talking” — what is at issue is just your ability to weave words and sentences together into a flowery image-laden bouquet that a woman’s mind can really grab on to. Natural storytellers are good at this; public speakers or politicians or lawyers or improv actors who memorize a lot of romantic language are excellent at this. For a woman, imagery and word choice — as well as pacing, intonation, and rhythm — are very important components of weaving a hypnotic sexual spell.

The Procedure
Being persuasive during sex can basically be broken down as follows.

1. Provide exceptionally good sex (better than usual)
2. While your woman is enjoying this exceptional state, begin spinning a fantasy around whatever it is you want her to be persuaded to do or be (bisexual, receptive to anal sex, going to Europe with you, whatever)
3. Link the fantasy and the good sex in her mind by talking about your emotions (”I’ll feel so much closer to you”), and gradually withdrawing the good sex if she is not acquiescent to the fantasy (although she will be, trust me).
4. Encourage her to join in the fantasy-spinning and elaborate in her own way (”owning” it), and reward her when she does by giving her even better sex.

That’s basically it. An incredibly simple 3-step process, as powerful as it is simple.

The challenge here lies in the fact that the process requires a couple things of you; and these things are by no means common to all men.

1. It requires high-level sexual skill such that, not only can you show your woman a good time, but you can show your woman any one of a number of levels of “good time”, and dial her enjoyment up or down like a rheostat, at will.
2. It requires you have at least enough verbal skill to weave enjoyable, entrancing fantasies in romantic language that will ease her into acceptance (verbal lubrication, you might say).

The good news is that even if you don’t have these skills now, they can be learned.

Why Does this Work?
Anything you say or do during sex typically meet with much less resistance than they otherwise would. During sex, your woman is at her most suggestible, most receptive, and most acquiescent. This highly pliable sexual state acts as a key to unlocking all her dirtiest desires, wildest fantasies, and most egalitarian view of the relationship (threesome potential).

The important thing to realize is, sex is not a logical activity, but an emotional one — and whereas women can be incredibly resistant to logical persuasion, they are wholly helpless against emotional persuasion (of which sex is the most powerful type).

This is because of a couple things:

1. You are giving her incredible pleasure
2. She is in an entirely illogical state, which makes it easy for her to agree to whatever you say
3. The good feelings of sex, which are inextricably linked to you via every thrust, are also inextricably linked to the positive outcomes of your guidance and leadership
4. The phenomenon of backwards-rationalization will guarantee that things she agreed to and enjoyed thinking about during sex will be her new perceptions and opinions the next morning

and, perhaps most importantly,

5. Most women are not nearly as prudish as they present themselves in conversation (due to “anti-slut” social pressure)

Now, these are some pretty hard-to-swallow assertions for most women; a woman reading this is likely to flip out and take umbrage at words like “dominance” and “non-rational” and “pleasure”. But those women cannot deny that this process works (although they might try).

In regards to the last point, during sex hidden fantasies often come out: I once had a woman say “I want you to give orgasms to all the women in the world” while I was fucking her. You may be shocked and surprised by what a woman will admit to or come up with in cooperative fantasy-talk during sex; in my experience, women are much “dirtier” and kinkier in their fantasies than most men could ever hope to be (but that may be just a function of the types of women I’ve been with; see The Variety of the Female Specimen.)

Morality and Sexual Persuasion
A lot of people may cry Foul at this article; they might perceive it as leveraging the power of sexual arousal and backwards rationalization in order to “trick” women into doing things against their will.

My view on this is simple: sure, it’s a pretty gray area. It does involve leveraging psychological principles and unique female psychology, and, if done properly, it is designed to benefit the man in the relationship first and foremost.

But this is no more “immoral” than things women do with sex in order to benefit themselves: withholding sex from men to get their way, arousing men physically without actually initiating sex in order to sustain economically-beneficial relationships (the old-school “cock tease”), and accusing men of rape in order to avoid dealing with an unwanted pregnancy (an extreme example).

In light of these behaviors, persuasive sex is actually more moral than a lot of those activities, since A) the woman is receiving the benefit of sex while it happens and B) “compromising” her principles on something like anal sex, threesomes or Lolita fantasies isn’t likely to leave a permanent scar on any woman, emotionally or physically.

When it comes to sex, I generally have the laissez-fair attitude of “Do whatever you like as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else“; and I think utilizing your persuasive powers in sex falls pretty solidly in the “greatest good for greatest number” category.

Related Articles:

• Sex, Validation and Self-Concept
• The Zen of Sex & Seduction
• What Makes Sex Good
• How to Have Threesomes with your Bisexual Girlfriend
• Acquiring a Woman's Loyalty
• How to Turn a Woman On