How to Deal with your Girlfriend Hooking
I noticed a few days ago that somebody had stumbled across this page by using the search phrase ‘how to deal with your girlfriend hooking’.
I was immediately gripped by a strong desire to write a post on that very issue.
So, lonely and curious internet searcher, I offer you this simple and complete answer to the question, How To Deal With Your Girlfriend Hooking:
A: You don’t.
This is, incidentally, the same as the answer to the question, How Do I Deal with My Girlfriend Stripping.
Now, I realize that some men may disagree with me here. Some men actually make it their life’s work to become good at seducing, manipulating, and managing strippers in long-term relationships. Some men actually say it is easy, given that strippers have already put their cards out on the table — they are prepared for a transactional relationship, and can therefore be managed in that way.
Plenty of men probably agree with these statements, but I tell you the truth, the number of men who can actually carry out satisfying relationships with strippers and not get exploited make up probably 0.0000012% of the global male population (and yes, I did actually run the numbers on that, and they’re solid).
We are not talking about those men here. We’re talking about the Average Guy. And the Average Guy will get eaten up by a woman who has already gone through the mental and psychological adjustments necessary to commoditize her body, her relationships, her love and affection. And, since most men have not made those adjustments, most men will get Eaten For Breakfast.
Simple equation: women (although not by nature) can be molded into predatory, manipulative creatures if circumstances are right. Strippers and hookers are two populations where, very typically, those circumstances were right with very high confidence. If you meet a stripper or hooker, odds are with almost 100% certainty that those women are predatory to one degree or another. Many of them also happen to hate men.
So here’s a shoutout for men who believe they are in ‘relationships’ with strippers or hookers: you’re not in a relationship. You are BEING HAD.
Get out while you can.
Again, stories that disprove me are most welcome. But before you try, make sure you don’t have your head up your ass.
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February 11th, 2007 at 11:02 pm
Makes sense.
What doesn’t make any sense are the fellas that do decide they want to date a stripper of hooker. Why the hell would you want to date somebody that will mosre than likely have a boat load of issues when there is a world full of billions of women at your disposal?
October 30th, 2007 at 7:19 pm
For both hookers and strippers, the other side of the coin is that even women who are predatory, manipulative creatures (and you’re utterly right about that) do have needs for intimacy (of all sorts), and those can be negotiated (in all senses) by somebody who knows what he’s doing.
Part of the “knowing what you’re doing” is making it clear to both parties that you are NOT going to be played, even arguably — no “gifts” that go beyond, say, a Big Mac, and never, ever in cash. Strippers run a pretty straightforward game (there’s such a variety of hooking that it’s hard to generalize): they simulate sexual/personal interest both to stimulate, react to, and train the guy to behave like an ATM. That’s a straightforward pattern that’s easy to interrupt.
Both strippers and hookers can be gamed.
It can be done; pimps do it all the time, and not only don’t put out money with their girls, but take it in. It’s typically not just that they beat them or get them hooked on drugs — it’s that they get them hooked on the emotional transaction.
Which is where even if you’re wrong, you’re right: what vaguely decent guy would choose to, even if he could, be a pimp?
It’s the difference between the guy who would go for the Caveman routine if he thinks (correctly or not is another matter; and remember, if you guess wrong, even in retrospect, you get a longterm view of the correctional system) that it will be good for both him and the girl, and the guy who will only hold back on rape if/because/when he thinks that he won’t get away with it.